Did you know you have a superpower? Your superpower is to accept and live out the phrase, “It is what it is.” When you can accept your circumstances with a mindset of calm and determination, knowing that you’ve got your back, you are living into your superpowers.
My daughter had a medical condition during her high school years (and to this day). She missed everything; sports, events, classes, friends. It was horribly rough on the both of us. I always reminded her of the futility of fighting what was. I would acknowledge her pain, and then reminder her, “it is what it is.” It was my broken record.
She reminded me the other day of our phrase. Now a senior in college, she’s fearless. When her classmates are falling apart over an unexpectedly hard exam, she reminds them, “it is what it is”, and then goes about her way, facing whatever life throws her way with a groundedness that I can only admire.
This phrase is used to accept a situation or circumstance that cannot be changed and is therefore beyond your control. Practicing this mindset can help reduce stress and increase inner peace. Here are some ways to practice “it is what it is”:
- Acceptance: Accept the situation for what it is and let go of any resistance or frustration. This means acknowledging and embracing the reality of the situation, no matter how unpleasant it may be.
- Focus on what you can control: Instead of worrying about what you cannot change, focus on what you can control. Identify any actions you can take to improve the situation or how you can adapt to it.
- Practice gratitude: Cultivate an attitude of gratitude by focusing on the good things in your life. This will help you put things into perspective and appreciate what you have, even when faced with difficult circumstances.
- Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness by being present in the moment and observing your thoughts and feelings without judgment. This can help you let go of negative thoughts and emotions and increase your ability to accept things as they are.
- Seek support: Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who can help you navigate difficult situations. Talking to a trusted friend or counselor can also be helpful in accepting and coping with difficult circumstances.
You can do this. You can embrace your superpower of accepting what cannot be changed, the death of your loved one, and then having the courage to adapt to your new reality. You can embody the phrase, “it is what it is.”
And guess what? If you need help, I’m here.
Julie
P.S. If you want to know more about how I can help, I’m a message or email away.
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