Author: Julie Martella
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The Club No One Wants To Join
There is a club that no one wants to join after your husband or wife dies. It’s called the widow/widowers club. When my husband died, I vividly remember being very angry when a well-intentioned elderly woman approached me and said, “welcome to the club.” I wanted to scream at her that I was too young…
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Am I Ready For Coaching?
Do you wonder if you’re ready for coaching? Do you wonder if you still need a therpist? Here’s how to tell. YOU’RE READY FOR COACHING WHEN: You want to get unstuck and set goals you can achieve. You are functioning, although you may still struggle with your grief. You want to stop bad habits and…
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You Will Never Be Ready
I think one of the most aggravating parts of being a widow is having to do ALL OF THE THINGS. I wasn’t ready. You will never actually be ready to do all of the things that must be done when your spouse dies (but you can do it). I wasn’t ready to be a single…
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Do You Need a Coach or a Therapist?
How can you tell if you need a life coach or a therapist? While both can be very helpful, it’s important to know the difference! See if you can tell which statement is fact and which is fiction. Coaching is just therapy in disguise! Fiction! A life coach and a therapy have very different roles.…
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What About the Stuff?
Dealing with your possessions is an integral part of integrating your life before your loss with your life after your loss. Its about remembering, releasing, and embracing. What About the Stuff? In the beginning of your grief process all of your objects, collections, and things may be of comfort to you. Those items represent your…
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Grief Is Learning to Integrate Loss Into Life
Grief is the process of integrating the very personal and devastating loss of your spouse or significant other into your new, unprecedented life. It’s a journey that you do not want to take, it forces you to a place you never wanted to be, and into a process that you don’t understand. There’s a lot…
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Finding Your North Star
As you settle into the months or years following the death of your loved one, have you entered the questioning phase of your journey? Why did this happen? What do I do with this experience? Why me? How do I move forward? My personal favorite was: How do I make something good come out of…
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The Truth About Life
There’s a fundamental truth about life that is often overlooked. Understanding it will be a game changer for you in a good way. Here it is! For the most part, life is a 50/50 Split. That’s it! About half of the things in your life will fall on the good side and half will land…
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How To Make Friends As an Adult
Learning how to make friends as an adult is a lot different that as a child. We don’t have the proverbial playground and mandatory education! Plus, as a widow, it can be scary to put yourself out there! Recently I posed that question to an online group. The response was incredible, supportive, and so encouraging!!…
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An Encouragement Manifesto
What would happen if we collectively made a promise to women and for women? What if we made a promise to encourage and support, to invest in the future for women and their families? I have decided to create an encouragement manifesto for women. It’s time to commit to the mental and physical health of…
