What About the Stuff?

Dealing with your possessions is an integral part of integrating your life before your loss with your life after your loss. Its about remembering, releasing, and embracing. What About the Stuff?  In the beginning of your grief process all of your objects, collections, and things may be of comfort to you. Those items represent yourContinue reading “What About the Stuff?”

Grief Is Learning to Integrate Loss Into Life

Grief is the process of integrating the very personal and devastating loss of your spouse or significant other into your new, unprecedented life. It’s a journey that you do not want to take, it forces you to a place you never wanted to be, and into a process that you don’t understand. There’s a lotContinue reading “Grief Is Learning to Integrate Loss Into Life”

Finding Your North Star

As you settle into the months or years following the death of your loved one, have you entered the questioning phase of your journey?  Why did this happen? What do I do with this experience? Why me? How do I move forward?   My personal favorite was: How do I make something good come out ofContinue reading “Finding Your North Star”

Death Day Decisions

There are a few very important action items that will have to be made the day your beloved dies. This is one of the reasons the living so desperately need you.  Notify family Where to send the body What is going to happen to the body Put a person or close group in charge ofContinue reading “Death Day Decisions”

The Worst Day of Your Life

What if, today, in the middle of the worst day of your life, there was someone out there that could tell you, “These are the things that are going to happen, and here’s how you’re going to deal with it.” I’m here, and I am speaking from experience. I know your world has fallen apart.Continue reading “The Worst Day of Your Life”


Sometimes when you are in the midst of turmoil follow the death of your loved one, it helps to have just one word to cling to. You can repeat your word as a mantra, and with the right word, it can recenter you in the storm. A friend this year gave me three words, oneContinue reading “Survive/Revive/Thrive”