Who Am I Now?

A huge part of the grieving process is answering the question who am I now? When your spouse was alive, you experienced life in a linear fashion, with clear titles and beliefs about who you were. You had the beloved title of wife or husband. After my husband died I lost my favorite title ofContinue reading “Who Am I Now?”

Let’s Take a Hint From Fall

Maybe it’s time to take a hint from fall.   Look outside, if you can, and notice what’s going on with the trees.  May I share with you what’s going on in my slice of the world?  I love my orchard and I love every single tree.  And if I am silent and watch, theyContinue reading “Let’s Take a Hint From Fall”

The Club No One Wants To Join

There is a club that no one wants to join after your husband or wife dies. It’s called the widow/widowers club. When my husband died, I vividly remember being very angry when a well-intentioned elderly woman approached me and said, “welcome to the club.” I wanted to scream at her that I was too youngContinue reading “The Club No One Wants To Join”

Am I Ready For Coaching?

Do you wonder if you’re ready for coaching? Do you wonder if you still need a therpist? Here’s how to tell. YOU’RE READY FOR COACHING WHEN: You want to get unstuck and set goals you can achieve. You are functioning, although you may still struggle with your grief. You want to stop bad habits andContinue reading “Am I Ready For Coaching?”

Do You Need a Coach or a Therapist?

How can you tell if you need a life coach or a therapist? While both can be very helpful, it’s important to know the difference! See if you can tell which statement is fact and which is fiction. Coaching is just therapy in disguise! Fiction! A life coach and a therapy have very different roles.Continue reading “Do You Need a Coach or a Therapist?”

What About the Stuff?

Dealing with your possessions is an integral part of integrating your life before your loss with your life after your loss. Its about remembering, releasing, and embracing. What About the Stuff?  In the beginning of your grief process all of your objects, collections, and things may be of comfort to you. Those items represent yourContinue reading “What About the Stuff?”

Grief Is Learning to Integrate Loss Into Life

Grief is the process of integrating the very personal and devastating loss of your spouse or significant other into your new, unprecedented life. It’s a journey that you do not want to take, it forces you to a place you never wanted to be, and into a process that you don’t understand. There’s a lotContinue reading “Grief Is Learning to Integrate Loss Into Life”

Finding Your North Star

As you settle into the months or years following the death of your loved one, have you entered the questioning phase of your journey?  Why did this happen? What do I do with this experience? Why me? How do I move forward?   My personal favorite was: How do I make something good come out ofContinue reading “Finding Your North Star”

Death Day Decisions

There are a few very important action items that will have to be made the day your beloved dies. This is one of the reasons the living so desperately need you.  Notify family Where to send the body What is going to happen to the body Put a person or close group in charge ofContinue reading “Death Day Decisions”