Author: Julie Martella
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Navigating On-Line Dating
It’s February and some of you may be thinking about dipping your toes into the dating pool. Exciting? Yes. Terrifying? Yes! Remember, in our life after loss its’ ok to feel excited AND terrified at the same time. While it may seem quite confusing, there are indeed ways to navigate the world of online dating.…
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Dismantling the Shrine
A large part of moving forward is letting the things go, and in the process, making peace with the fact that our loved one will not be returning.
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Widows Fog
Who among us has not felt widows fog? Who among us has not felt lost and disoriented with the realities of our new life after loss? In the San Joaquin Valley of California, the fog is famous in a bad way, and while I don’t want to drive in it if at all possible, I…
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Some Thoughts for 2022
As we enter 2022, I want to offer you some thoughts to just consider as you move forward into your new year. I know that things have been difficult, and the passage of a new year may bring sadness or thoughts that your person has been gone that much longer. I get it. My first…
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Goodbye 2021
Goodbye 2021. You were difficult, but also awe inspiring. This was the year I learned to take my lessons from grief and share them with those who are hurting. I want to thank each of YOU for an amazing year: a year of connecting with you individually and as a community. I’ve been so honored…
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The Tale of Christmas Minefields
It’s all around us in the music, in the greetings, and the general atmosphere of, “it’s the most wonderful time of the year.” But is it? Really? For those experiencing the holidays without their spouse it’s more like walking through a minefield, which the dictionary defines as, “an area planted with explosive mines, or a…
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The Greatest Love Story Yet To Be Told
This is part two of a recent teaching by Teresa Beshwate, The Sudden Widow Coach. The first post was, “Permission To Live.” If you need to, read it quickly, and then come back. When you grant yourself permission to live, it doesn’t diminish the love you had for your previous life with your spouse. In…
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Permission to Live
Do you need permission to live? This article based on the teachings of Teresa Beshwate, The Sudden Widow Coach, and it will blow your mind! Have you felt it? Have you felt that ten seconds of joy and laughter, perhaps with friends when you laugh so hard your tummy hurts? And then, like a slap…
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The Story of You
“We’re all destined to live through three to five life-altering transitions in our lifetime (life quakes). They will drain the meaning from your existence, drying up the life story of how you used to define yourself.” Bruce Feiler, Life Is In the Transitions Your life is like a novel, a masterpiece written over the course…
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How Do You Recharge?
How do you recharge? The holiday season is almost upon you, and it can be an especially challenging time. In addition to the stressors of regular life you may also have to tackle triggers, sadness, broken in-law relationships, and children who are grieving, but may manifest that grief as anger, anxiety, or stubbornness. Self care…
Navigating Widowhood 