Grief can feel like a weight you can’t put down. On the hardest days, even the smallest tasks can seem impossible. It’s during these times that showing yourself kindness and support matters most.

Let’s explore ways to care for yourself when grief feels overwhelming and find moments of relief in the heaviness.

Why Grief Feels Heavier on Some Day

Grief isn’t static. Certain triggers, memories, or even your energy level can make the weight feel unbearable. Here’s why:

• Anniversaries and Milestones: Significant dates can bring emotions rushing back.
• Unexpected Triggers: A smell, a song, or a place can remind you of your loss.
• Emotional Fatigue: Grief is exhausting, and some days you simply run out of energy to cope.

These heavier moments are a normal part of grief. They don’t mean you’re regressing—they mean you’re human.

Ways to Support Yourself

1. Acknowledge the Weight
   Instead of fighting the heaviness, give yourself permission to feel it. Say to yourself:
   • Today is hard, and that’s okay.
2. Break the Day into Small Pieces
   Focus on one moment or task at a time. Ask yourself: What’s the next small thing I can do to feel supported?
3. Lean Into Comforting Rituals
   Whether it’s wrapping yourself in a cozy blanket, lighting a candle, or journaling, familiar rituals can provide a sense of stability.
4. Connect with Someone Safe
   Reach out to a trusted friend, therapist, or support group. Sometimes, simply talking about your feelings can lighten the load.
5. Move Your Body Gently
   If it feels possible, a short walk or gentle stretching can help release tension and ground you in the present.
6. Practice Grounding Techniques
   When emotions feel overwhelming, grounding techniques like deep breathing or focusing on your senses can bring you back to the moment.

Things to Remind Yourself

On heavy grief days, these truths can help:

• This feeling won’t last forever.
• It’s okay to rest and not be productive today.
• I don’t have to face this alone.

Final Thoughts

Grief’s heaviness is not a sign of weakness; it’s a reflection of your love and loss. By supporting yourself with compassion and small, intentional actions, you can find moments of relief, even on the hardest days.

You are stronger than you feel, and you don’t have to carry the weight alone.

With hope and compassion,
Julie