Do you ever wonder if you’ll be happy again? Do you struggle to connect with the feelings of happiness after the loss of your spouse or partner?

In your grief, the idea of finding and chasing happiness again may feel impossible and exhausting. I want to offer you a challenge today: what if happiness is a direction you can point yourself towards? What if the path of happiness is actually filled with choices you can make every single day, even in the face of your grief and loss? What if you can chase happiness and actually enjoy the process?

It turns out that happiness is not a destination we have to leave behind because of our loss, but rather a journey of its own making.

You have the power to create your own happiness, and it is not tied to the relationship you had with your loved one.

While it may look different, you still have the power to embark on a new journey toward happiness; in effect, you can point yourself in the direction of happiness and then take steps to make it happen.

So, how do you point yourself in the direction of happiness?

Indulge in Small Pleasures

Even in the darkest moments, take time to enjoy life’s simple pleasures, such as a warm cup of tea, the touch of a pet, or a quiet walk in nature.

Embrace Challenges

Engaging in challenging activities can be a powerful way to shift your focus and find a sense of accomplishment. This could be learning a new skill, volunteering, or pursuing a hobby that ignites your passion.

Set and Achieve Goals

Setting and working towards achievable goals can provide a sense of purpose. These goals don’t have to be grand; they can be as simple as daily routines or bigger aspirations that give your life direction.

Connect with Others

Maintaining close social ties is essential during times of grief. Reach out to friends and family members who can provide support, understanding, and companionship as you begin to build your new web of support.

Find Meaning Beyond Yourself

Seek purpose in activities that go beyond your own needs. Help others through acts of kindness, engage in meaningful projects by volunteering, interacting with a Zoom or online group, or lending a hand to a neighbor.

Happiness is not an elusive destination that depends on your previous relationships and circumstances. It’s a path you choose to walk every day, one step at a time.

Point yourself in the direction of happiness and then run in that direction every single day.

Remember, you can do this, and if not, I’m here to help.

Julie

P.S. I am offering a “Happiness Bingo” card over at Navigating Widowhood. Take the challenge, post your progress, and watch yourself change!!