If you have learned anything in this grief journey, it is that the world is very broken, and the more you try and fight this imperfection, and the longing for things to be different, the more difficult it is to navigate the complexity of grief and acceptance. This includes the navigation of relationships and the decision-making processes post-grief. Maybe it’s time to consider embracing imperfection.

Grief: A Constant Companion

Grief is like an ever present thread that weaves its way through the very fabric of human existence. The grief we know most intimately is the loss of our loved one. There is more. Regardless of our choices regarding parenthood, relationships, or where we live, grief inevitably finds us. It is part of our human experience, reminding us that life is unpredictable, imperfect, and filled with both joy and sorrow.

What if you opened yourself to the possibility that perhaps nothing has gone wrong in your navigation of life and relationships, and that everyone is doing their best? How would that change your perspective?

The Pain Of Unmet Expectations

In your post loss relationships, whether they be with loved ones, friends, or even pets, you desire to connect deeply, hoping for fulfillment and happiness. However, when reality falls short of your expectations, when those people do not meet your perceived needs, grief takes hold. This grief cannot be easily softened, or ignored. It is a profound ache, born from the recognition, that things will never be as you once wished.

Acknowledging Our Efforts and Growth

In this puzzle of grief, it is crucial to remain compassionate towards yourself. You must recognize that you have done the best with what you had, just as your children, and loved ones have done the best with their circumstances. It is a reminder that there is always room for growth and the possibility of creating new relationships based on newfound understanding.

The Uncertainty Of the Future

While the future may be uncertain, and while you may not know what it will look like, one thing is for sure-feelings change over time. As humans you and I possess the capacity to adapt, grow, and mature. As you navigate the ups and downs of life, you will learn to embrace the unpredictability and imperfection that makes you human.

Human life is a tapestry woven from emotions, both beautiful and painful. Embracing imperfection, and understanding that perfection doesn’t exist allows you to open yourself to a new perspective in which you begin to understand that while grief may be your unyielding companion it, is also a catalyst for growth and resilience.

My friends, opening ourselves to the possibility, that nothing has gone wrong, and that everyone is doing their best to be a challenging endeavor. It requires us to confront the grief that arises from the absence of a perfect world. It makes the loss of a loved one that much more difficult. However life’s imperfections do not diminish its beauty; they simply remind us of our share of humanity.

Blessings,

Julie