The feeling of frozen can be a shelter from your pain, or you can leverage it to complete a difficult, but necessary, task. You get to chose. Either way, you’ve got this and I’m here to help.
Invisible buddies exist all around us. When you meet someone who has a quality you particularly admire, perhaps someone who is “widowing” in a way that you admire, watch them. Observe them. Take notice. Try on those qualities, as if they were a new hat.
When life gave me an orchard full of lemons, I freaked out and ran through a multitude of worst case scenario’s. Then I stopped. I made the decision to think carefully and ON PURPOSE about what was happening and how I was going to respond to it.
Use your pain to transform how you move through the world. Learn to live in grace and love while never forgetting the brokenness. It is because of the bitter that we can fully experience the sweet.
For a few days widowed people get to set aside their grief work and just relax and soak in the comfort and deep understanding of being with people who get you.
I want to encourage you to stay the course; to process the pain, and to fight your way through your grief because your future is waiting for you.
The pain of loss is clean pain. The thoughts we wrap around that pain creates suffering, including denial, regret, worry, anxiety, indignation, anger, and self-pity.
I have come to the end of myself. I have given up dreams of my past and future. In sitting on the ledge, I became aware of the possibility of a new life, a new life in which I served and nourished others.
The sun really does rise and set each day, and with that passage of time our loss becomes more manageable.
While there may be times when we feel more like a junk yard treasure than a masterpiece, we are always a work of art.