create a life to love – Navigating Widowhood

Finding Gold Stars In Your Day

Do you know what happens when you find gold stars day after day? You change your mind! You literally change how your mind perceives the world and that is powerful stuff! You create a life based on intentionality.

Invisible Buddies

Invisible buddies exist all around us. When you meet someone who has a quality you particularly admire, perhaps someone who is “widowing” in a way that you admire, watch them. Observe them. Take notice. Try on those qualities, as if they were a new hat.

When Life Gives You Lemons

When life gave me an orchard full of lemons, I freaked out and ran through a multitude of worst case scenario’s. Then I stopped. I made the decision to think carefully and ON PURPOSE about what was happening and how I was going to respond to it.

The Bitter and the Sweet

Use your pain to transform how you move through the world. Learn to live in grace and love while never forgetting the brokenness. It is because of the bitter that we can fully experience the sweet.

Finding You In Your Future

Here’s the thing. Even though you feel like your future is over, it isn’t. If you have a pulse, you have a future. If you have a future, there is a future version of you waiting for you and cheering you on.

The Other Side of Loss

I want to encourage you to stay the course; to process the pain, and to fight your way through your grief because your future is waiting for you.

Pain is Inevitable, Suffering Is Optional

The pain of loss is clean pain. The thoughts we wrap around that pain creates suffering, including denial, regret, worry, anxiety, indignation, anger, and self-pity.

The View From Five Years Out

The sun really does rise and set each day, and with that passage of time our loss becomes more manageable.

YOU Are A Work Of Art

While there may be times when we feel more like a junk yard treasure than a masterpiece, we are always a work of art.

The Tale of Two Futures

You have a unique opportunity to carve and craft a new future; your Plan B. It will look very different, but you CAN really create a new life to love.