Do you know what happens when you find gold stars day after day? You change your mind! You literally change how your mind perceives the world and that is powerful stuff! You create a life based on intentionality.
Invisible buddies exist all around us. When you meet someone who has a quality you particularly admire, perhaps someone who is “widowing” in a way that you admire, watch them. Observe them. Take notice. Try on those qualities, as if they were a new hat.
I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about how we can take of ourselves when life throws us a curveball and I believe its all about organizing the care and keeping of YOU.
When life gave me an orchard full of lemons, I freaked out and ran through a multitude of worst case scenario’s. Then I stopped. I made the decision to think carefully and ON PURPOSE about what was happening and how I was going to respond to it.
Do you ever feel angry with God? Do you wonder if you’re being punished or if he even exists? I felt all of those things for a long time. Husbands aren’t supposed to die at 46.
Use your pain to transform how you move through the world. Learn to live in grace and love while never forgetting the brokenness. It is because of the bitter that we can fully experience the sweet.
For a few days widowed people get to set aside their grief work and just relax and soak in the comfort and deep understanding of being with people who get you.
Here’s the thing. Even though you feel like your future is over, it isn’t. If you have a pulse, you have a future. If you have a future, there is a future version of you waiting for you and cheering you on.
I want to encourage you to stay the course; to process the pain, and to fight your way through your grief because your future is waiting for you.
The pain of loss is clean pain. The thoughts we wrap around that pain creates suffering, including denial, regret, worry, anxiety, indignation, anger, and self-pity.