I know that in your life after loss you may struggle to feel worthy in the midst of your brokenness, and I want to remind you today that, darling, YOU are a work of art.
There are many times when I am OK. I understand that this is my life now, and that it looks so different. My brain gets it…. most of the time.
However, there are times when I poignantly feel my brokenness, my aloneness, and fear that my life will never resemble anything but a mass of shards haphazardly reassembled with duct tape. These are the times when my brain cannot reconcile my loss with my life, and I feel more like a junk yard find.
Do you want your life to resemble a masterpiece or salvage piece? You get to decide.
May is the month of milestones: retirement parties, birthdays and graduations. I attend them all. It was such a surprise today when I came across a note someone had slipped into my purse. The note had been lettered on a slip of regular paper and read: Darling, YOU are a work of art.
It stopped me in my tracks. I read it several times and was reminded of the practice of Kintsugi.
Kintsugi is the Japanese art of putting broken pottery pieces back together with gold. It is built on the idea that embracing flaws and imperfections can result in the creation of an even more beautiful piece of art.Julie Martella
I just want to remind you that you are a work of art, exactly as you are today. Your brokenness does not have to be slapped together with silver duct tape. It can be thoughtfully and intentinally refashioned into something new and beautiful. The seams of trauma can be melded with gold, and those scars, which once seemed so painful and full of shame, become the unique signature of your masterpiece.
To all of my beautiful friends struggling with reconciliation, worthiness, and finding courage to just take the next step, I want you to know that you are seen and heard, and I am cheering you on.
Never forget that, darling, YOU are a work of art.
P.S. If you want to talk, I’m here. Just send me a note.