YOU Are A Work Of Art

I know that in your life after loss you may struggle to feel worthy in the midst of your brokenness, and I want to remind you today that, darling, YOU are a work of art.

There are many times when I am OK. I understand that this is my life now, and that it looks so different. My brain gets it…. most of the time.

However, there are times when I poignantly feel my brokenness, my aloneness, and fear that my life will never resemble anything but a mass of shards haphazardly reassembled with duct tape. These are the times when my brain cannot reconcile my loss with my life, and I feel more like a junk yard find.

Do you want your life to resemble a masterpiece or salvage piece? You get to decide.

May is the month of milestones: retirement parties, birthdays and graduations. I attend them all. It was such a surprise today when I came across a note someone had slipped into my purse. The note had been lettered on a slip of regular paper and read: Darling, YOU are a work of art.

It stopped me in my tracks. I read it several times and was reminded of the practice of Kintsugi.

Kintsugi is the Japanese art of putting broken pottery pieces back together with gold. It is built on the idea that embracing flaws and imperfections can result in the creation of an even more beautiful piece of art.

Julie Martella

I just want to remind you that you are a work of art, exactly as you are today. Your brokenness does not have to be slapped together with silver duct tape. It can be thoughtfully and intentinally refashioned into something new and beautiful. The seams of trauma can be melded with gold, and those scars, which once seemed so painful and full of shame, become the unique signature of your masterpiece.

To all of my beautiful friends struggling with reconciliation, worthiness, and finding courage to just take the next step, I want you to know that you are seen and heard, and I am cheering you on.

Never forget that, darling, YOU are a work of art.


P.S. If you want to talk, I’m here. Just send me a note.

2 thoughts on “YOU Are A Work Of Art

  1. Hi Julie, Just listened to your WWDN interview with mel and anita. I am hiring an organizer to help me deal with hubby’s horde of basement treasures and tools. i tossed the obvious junk but so much i can’t use but don’t want to part with cuz was so much of his self was connected to those things. i gave much to habitat for humanity because he’d be ok with that if they help someone, but the rest my kids aren’t sure if they’ll want (24/27 yo). The woman comes a week from today and i’m kinda panicky because what if i need the stuff later, and it might cause arguments with my daughter. I dealt with his desk horde somewhat but I have adhd and never have had any system work for me. i have all the organizing books etc. i’m a full on flop when it comes to physical space management. School is out but teacher meetings til thursday so kinda fried by having to start my first summer alone. It’ll be a year july 27 shoulder surgery came home something went wrong i guess threw a clot in family room never woke up. Deterioration til Aug 4 removed life support. crap. school is out….now the stuff hits the fan i guess… Thxx for anything you can offer.


    1. Good afternoon!
      I am so glad you reached out and found me on the WWDN podcast! Love those ladies. I”m so sorry about your husband. My died the same way (with an embolism). I want to encourage you to give yourself the gift of grace and time. Do you have to have this woman out? Would you like to go through it at a slower pace or is there a need such as you need to move? Remember there is no wrong answer, only what is right for you.
      I would recommend you work on curating your possessions. This means going through the room before the lady gets there and picking out the things you want to keep that have meaning for you. You get to keep the best and let go of the rest. And please feel free to reach out to me and we can talk about your options.


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